Conflict can be defined as two or more people trying to occupy the same space or control the same resources. (John 16:33-17:1)
- The truth behind the conflict or battles. (Ephesian 1:18-22)
- Most of us have been blinded to the truth.
- We can see the physical world, but blinded to the spiritual world.
- We are blinded to the fact that all conflict can be resolved if both parties want it resolved. (Matthew. 17:20-21, NKJV)
- The only reason your conflict can’t or won’t be resolved is because of your unbelief.
- Faith is living and believing it’s going to get better before it does or it wouldn’t be faith.
- Begin to speak out loud to yourself if needed about how you believe it’s going to get better.
God has a plan to resolve our conflict. (Ephesians 5:21, KJV)
- When both parties are willing to submit to God’s plan, in fear of God, God will then begin to reveal His plan.
- God has a plan for your marriage, your job, your church, etc.; we just have to be willing to submit to that plan in the fear of God. (Psalms 128:1-6, NKJV; Isaiah 33:6, NKJV & NLT)
- What is God’s plan for conflict resolution?
- Basic conflict resolution that applies to every area of our life. (Matthew 18:15-16, NKJV)
- Step 1: The person who has or feels they have been offended should be the person who goes to the other person.
- You may feel you have been wronged and the other person not even know it.
- You have to know the difference between being offended and corrected.
When you’re corrected, you are to submit and learn from it.
- When you’re offended, you feel it was a personal attack on you or your character. (Luke 17:3, NKJV; Proverbs 27:6, NKJV; Proverbs 9:8-10, NKJV; Proverbs 27:5, NKJV; Proverbs 29:15, NKJV)
- Step 2: The person going should always go alone.
- Not gossip about it.
- Not try to get people to see why you’re upset.
When you begin to gossip and get others to side with you, you did not submit to God, you rebelled against God.
- Step 3: Go with the right motive, pure and Godly. (Matthew 5:9, NKJV)
- The wrong motive is not to prove you’re right and they are wrong.
- Your motive is to have resolve and peace.
- God’s plan or structure for family, home, job, etc., which involves mutual submission.