4-1 Emotional Intelligence

Emotional Intelligence

What can we do to increase our performance—which would increase productivity, which will increase our perspective on life and then produces the peace and power with God?  Increase our EQ.

People with a high EQ outperform someone with a high IQ 70% of the time.

What can we do to increase our performance—which would increase productivity, which will increase ourperspective on life and then produces the peace and power with God?  In our EQ.

What is Emotional Intelligence?

• Your ability to recognize and understand emotions, and your skill at using this awareness to manage yourself and your relationships with others.
• How have you managed your emotions and emotional relationships in the past week?
• The part of the brain above your left eye is where your EQ comes from.
• You have an emotional reaction to events you rationally think about them.
• We live in a world that doesn’t always know what is good for us.
• Our school systems, our homes, our churches are not teaching us how to lead, how to value emotions.

Why are we not learning about how to better handle our emotions? —Because if we continue to make decisions based on emotions we will continue to have confusion.  1 Corinthians 14:33-35, NKJV

• Why would God’s Word say for the women to be silent?
• He created women with more emotions!  Thank God!
• But we are to make more of our decisions based on facts—God’s Word—not emotions.
• In the beginning Eve made an emotional decision to get the fruit and Adam made an emotional decision to follow, but he knew he should not do it—Adam knew the facts!

Only 36% of people are able to accurately identify their emotions when they happen.

• That means 64% to 75% of the people are making decisions based on emotions not facts or God’s Word.
• The question is not how ¾ of the worlds making decisions, but how are you are making decision—by God’s Word, your spouse, your feelings, your culture, your environment.
• EQ is a flexible skill—it can improve—it requires a lot of practice.

4 Emotional Skills to improve our EQ?

• Self-Awareness—Leaning into discomfort—learn what you can improve.
• Self-Management—Using awareness of your emotions to choose what you say and do in order to positively direct your behavior.
• Social Management—Knowing what the other person is trying to communicate to your—you focus more on the other person than yourself.
• Relationship Management—Use the 1st 3 skills together –Adjust Behavior to impact other people to develop relationships.

Insights to remember:

• How much emotional pressure can that person handle?
• How they respond?
• How productive are they?

The higher the EQ the more productive they are!