Why Aren’t More Couples Happy?
You forget what it was like to be alone. (Genesis 2:18-25, NKJV)
If we are not careful, we forget what it was like before God sent us our mates. Forgetting our mate is God’s second greatest gift. You did not get married out of obligation, but opportunity. (Hebrews 13:4, NKJV)
Marriage is much harder than you thought or ever imagined. (Genesis 2:21-25, NKJV)
You are both selfish and will have to fight selfishness for the rest of your life. Selfishness is the #1 problem in marriage.
The truth about how the two become one:
Something hard and stubborn + something hard and stubborn = ouch, that hurts.
Ouch, that hurts + time + turning it to God = something incredible.
It takes longer to get there than you thought and it isn’t painless. It hurts when you realize that you can’t spend your time the way you used to and compromises have to be made. A happy marriage takes a lot of work that does not end.
The two become one, until death do you part.
Marriage is a long-term commitment and covenant. Today, most people are short-term-minded. If you want to be successful in life, remember, it’s what you do after you make the decision that greatly determines your success, not simply the decision you made. You will reap, have times harvest, and have joy. Those incredible times will only come to those who don’t give up. (Galatians 6:9-10, NKJV) God’s Word says let’s especially do goo to those closest to us.
Homework: Look for ways to do good to your mate or for your mate.
Easy accessibility to drugs and alcohol.
Drugs and alcohol are destroying lives and marriages than ever before. Acting like there’s not a problem is not the answer. Confessing and praying is the starting place. (James 5:16, NKJV)
Too much social and false media.
Most people are taking in too much of the wrong information and not enough of the right information. (Matthew 4:4, NKJV) In order to really live, make the right decisions, and to avoid discouragement and depression, you need to be taking in God’s Word. Many times, people are talking to the wrong people. (Job 31:1-2, NKJV; TLB) The only answer to lust is surrender. (Proverbs 15:3, NKJV)