The Problem is Not the Problem

Bootcamp is all about training not simply trying.

1 Timothy 4:8, NKJV, NCV, MSG

  • You can’t change the fruit in your life if you don’t change the
  • The fruit of the spirit is yours when you get saved, you just need to fertilize the roots and pull the weeds. (Galatians 5:22-23, NLT2)
  • The seed is the Word of God. (Matthew 13:20-21, NLT2)
  • We must receive and act on the Word of God.
  • Your marriage will have problems and persecutions.
    • Salvation is free; fruit of the spirit is work.
    • Marriages will lose the romantic emotional experience.
    • True love is choosing love and commitment over convenience and chemistry.

Train to be Soul Mates not simply Roommates.

  • Without knowing the real problem, we try to fix the wrong problem and the wrong person.
  • Instead of trying to fix the other person, we need to focus on becoming the right person.
  • Fix your hopes on God and seek to please Him through this relationship.
  • Wanting the fruit without changing the root change will never happen.

The root of the problem is a love problem.

  • Biblical love never fails…but can have lots of trials and troubles. (1 Corinthians 13:8, NKJV)
  • If you don’t love yourself and the way God made you, you will have problems loving others and them loving you. (Matthew 22:37-39, NKJV)
  • Great marriages take lots of hard work; without work marriages get bitter instead of better.

The real problem is a love Problem. (1 Peter 4:8, MSG)

  • If we loved each other like our life depended on it, most other problems would look small.
  • Let God take your marriage mess and turn into a miracle and a message.
  • Connect in love before you address problems, pains, or complaints.
  • Pour equity into your relationship before you try to make withdraws.

Ways to connect this week.

  • Put your marriage first, top priority. (Matthew 6:33, NKJV; Psalm 27:1-2, NKJV)
  • Have a date night.
  • Make sure you are touching your mate at least twice a day without sex.
  • Make a commitment to get healthier.
  • Agree to not miss church apart from emergency.
  • Agree not to get outside council unless we both agree who it is.
  • Pray for your spouse.

Marriage Bootcamp Week 2

Who are you and how did you get there? Check out week 2 of Marriage Boot Camp