Lessons from 1 Peter 5:6-81
Stop trying to handle your stress, emotions, and problems on your own. The reason we don’t humble ourselves is that we become haughty (prideful) without saying it we think we can handle this. Cast ALL your cares upon Him for He cares for you. Our emotions are greatly driven by what we think on. Jesus wants to take our emotions, bring Good News–restore relationships.
Insights on Emotions.
The life we have is a reflection of the thoughts we think. Change your thinking–change your life. Your life is always moving in the direction of your strongest thoughts. Most of life’s battles are won or lost in the mind. The mind is the battlefield: God’s truth to you and Satan’s lies about you. You allow your mind to stress you out or you learn to stretch your mind. Change begins with a decision, and nobody can make it for you; your mind will try to muzzle you. If you keep telling yourself, you are stressed your body will follow.
Emotions to beware of: Guilt, Anger, Greed, Jealousy, Fear.
Guilt—I owe you. (Psalm 38:4, NIV)
Guilt is feeling remorse real or imagined. Guilt creates distance and leads to keeping secrets; our secret sins keep us sick. Guilt makes its way into our words and then into our relationships. The sooner we learn to deal with guilt, the sooner we will be free of it; Ask forgiveness, there is not a sin God can not forgive.
It is not our responsibility for them to forgive us, it’s our responsibility to accept God’s forgiveness and ask those we hurt to forgive us. (Romans 8:33-34, NKJV) If we keep living in guilt after we confess it to God, we are saying God giving His Son for our sins was not enough. (Romans 8:15, NIV)Learn to confess your faith, as much as you confess your fear. (Romans 8:1, NIV)
Anger–you owe me. (Ephesians 4:26-27, NKJV)
Anger not dealt with gives place to the devil.ii.The real danger about anger—it is often passed on to the next generation and hurts the people closest to them.iii.Result of HURT = Real or Perceived Unmet Needs.
How to respond to anger:
Forgive as soon as possible. Identify what you feel was done to you, then forgive and decide the person no longer owes you anything. When we forgive others, we give up the right to hurt them back. (Romans 12:19, NKJV; Matthew 13:55-58,TLB)
Overcoming emotional anger that destroys
Anger artificially helps us feel in control when we are really out of control. Anger falsely helps us feel powerful when we feel powerless. Anger is a secondary emotion that comes as a result of hurt, frustration, or insecurity as a result of unmet expectations.
Hurt–real or perceived unmet needs
Tool # 1–Attack the issue, not the person.
Tool # 2–Learn how to communicate your needs.
Frustration–real or perceived unmet expectations
Tool # 1–learn to communicate your needs or expectations—why you feel the way you do.
Tool #2–Use the word “I desire vs. I demand.”
Insecurity–real or perceived attacks on my worth
Tool #1–Ask yourself “why am I feeling threatened?”
Tool #2–We have to get our security and worth from who we are in Christ, not others.
Thoughts to ponder
When we don’t allow Christ to help us control our emotions—our emotions control us. Do you have Christ in you? (2 Corinthians 5:17, NKJV, TLB) Have you allowed guilt or anger to defeat and discourage you? Do you want to confess it, face it, forsake it, and move on in the power of God? Is there someone you have been angry at and today you need to let that anger go? (Galatians 5:22-23, TLB) 2 Corinthians 5:17, NKJV, TLB; Galatians 5:22-23, TLB